It can be difficult to convey how important appearance can be as a queer person. There’s nothing wrong with vanity, especially when a good manicure, makeup, fillers, or the right haircut helps you feel like who you truly are. Aesthetic can go a long way for anyone when it comes to signaling your identity and honoring who you are, including queer people.
As a high-femme bisexual woman, while staying at home during the COVID-19 pandemic, I’ve been missing all the people who help me keep up my beauty routine. I miss my nail salon, the plastic surgeon who does my injectables, and my hairdresser. However, I have found my own ways to express myself through beauty, and I’m not alone. In fact, a lot of other queer folks use their beauty and personal care routines to express — and explore — their identities.
“In terms of self-expression, I believe that the most important part of being queer is living it, and so I really like to use fashion to signal it,” says Ana Valens, a queer sex writer and adult content reporter living in Brooklyn, New York.